Facebook Reiterates That You Can Reject Friends Without Looking Like A Jerk
And I think Facebook realizes that, which is why we’re getting a post today on its blog basically explaining that it’s okay not to accept all requests.
Specifically, the post notes that if you click the button to ignore a friend request, the person who requested you will not be notified about it. Likewise, if you accept someone as a friend, but then later un-friend them, they will not be notified (though they will no longer be able to see your information, nor will you be able to see their’s). And if you don’t want to accept them, but don’t want them to be able to attempt to friend you again, Facebook recommends simply leaving their request pending in your queue.
It’s interesting that Facebook felt the need to go over this again. That seems to speak to confusion over the symmetric nature of its social graph in a world of Twitter and other social services in which the “follower” is more common than the “friend.” Of course, there are benefits to this type of network, the key one being privacy.
But the problem is that as Facebook continues to grow and evolve, we’re getting more and more requests from random people that we don’t actually know. But many of us are using Facebook to spread informationjust as we do with Twitter (status updates, sharing links, etc), and there is some desire to allow these random people to be able to see some of what you are doing on Facebook. This is why Facebook created the “Everyone Button” and Fan Pages, but both of those seem to complicate the social graph, rather than simplify it.
The solution that I employ is to accept all Facebook friend requests but limit the people I do not actually know to a very basic profile using Facebook’s filters. I then hide many of these people from my main News Feed. The problem is that they still show up when I do things like search for something. It’s a less than ideal solution. Plus, many users of Facebook probably still aren’t using filters (or at least not using them well).
It will be interesting to see how Facebook deals with this issue going forward. Remember that they just purchased FriendFeed, which features a combination of an asymmetric social graph with great filters. I can’t help but wonder if Facebook won’t eventually switch to something like that.
Of course, we’re also hearing that they’re very close to launching their location functionality (just likeTwitter recently did), which will once again highlight the importance of privacy. Almost all location-based services are currently symmetric, because while it’s one thing for random people to read your words or see what links you’re sharing, it’s another for them to know where you are. Because of that, on services likeLoopt and Foursquare I stick pretty firmly to only accepting users that I actually know.
As they approach 300 million users, Facebook continually has the tough situation of having to deal withthese issues while figuring out how to educate all their current users if they intend to make a change. Of course, having 300 million users is a problem a lot of social networks would like to have.
TOPIC: How does this affect Twitter (in what ways)? Is having more followers than peeps you follow really a tool for judging another Twitter.
Another TOPIC that pertains to this I’d like everybody to consider: Should Twitter have a
per-minute-maximun Tweets Rule?
The more people you follow the more Tweets you see go by on your screen. How do you keep up with all of them?
I say: If you’re “loyals” need to find out something about you they enjoy seeing, then they shall be loyal. Then there’ll be no need to REPEAT things so much on TWITTER (major pet peevs of this social network, and many other colleagues).
I Vote YES for a Per-Minute Tweet Maximum allowed.
Look at that! Aready 89 tweets went by just as I finish this…
Su-sU-SuperForcE!